the Russian men get away with very much as a woman would never be able to"

It was a little humorous, and småelak

One of the articles I've written, which attracted the most responses, was a chronicle I wrote over fifteen years ago, a Russian magazine for men (type Swedish Café)It was about the Russian man from my perspective as a (then) ungsvensk woman. For example, I wrote that Russian men become the lönnfeta ago they stopped drinking vodka and started drinking beer, which was a consequence of the collapse of the Soviet union when they suddenly appeared a lot of western beers in the stores. But the text had a serious undertone that was about the Russian men continued to think that they had the right to drink themselves full in order to reduce the constant suffering that life entails. Russian men have undeniably suffered a lot during the story, but it has Russian women also done. However, it is only the men who can pick up the suffering as a small trophy from the skjortärmen when it is needed. Russian men know that it is a card that goes home with many Russian women. At the same time that the suffering will be an excuse that they need to take responsibility for a lot of tough things in life. Today, I would probably formulated the chronicle is a little different, but some things still feels current. Too many in Russia still puts an equal sign between the to pity and to love. This is not something I experience, but something that Russian women themselves often talk about. ”Oh, she feels sorry for him, then they are soon a couple”, for example, you can often hear. The Russian men get away with very much as a woman would never be able to. I don't know how many families I know in Russia, and the post-soviet countries, who lost their property or their accommodation for various reasons. But while the women in the family, roll up your sleeves and take something skitjobb to feed the family, sits the man instead at home and feel sorry for himself and drinking. Wife may swear over him and talk shit about him with her girlfriends, but she forgives and continues to rip, only that the spouse will take the money to be able to buy even a bottle of liquor.

The man was sorry if forgive easily

She leaves him not ”because it's such a shame about him and who would take care of him if I don't do it.

He wouldn't survive a week without me”.

However, it is extremely shameful if a woman drink. The same thing applies to the relationship to the children. The responsibility for the children is almost always absolutely on the woman. He has hobbies, travel with your friends, and he have to work. She works and takes care of the children. Time she not from the job looking she baby sitting service. She already knows when she becomes pregnant, she risks to get rid of the job to her male employer thinks that she not only will be on maternity leave, but in addition will scrub the - because he knows that her husband will not do it. There will be a divorce ends up the kids are always with their mother, and in best cases pay the husband maintenance (an old, but still interesting survey, shows that in the year paid only per cent of the fathers maintenance). Dad can move to another city or to another country - that the kids might need their dad is nothing that beats him. I know many Russian men who almost never hit their children, though they have all the prerequisites. During the the years I have talked with countless people (fathers, mothers, psychologists, sociologists, historians, and lawyers) about the reason why Russian men don't feel the need to take as much responsibility for the family, or even for themselves, as women. Most believe that it is Russia's sole story that made the Russian man is weak and the Russian father is absent. The revolution, the civil war, two world wars and gulaglägren took many men's lives. Those who survived were traumatized. The women had to take over the responsibility. They had to replace the men, both in the industry and with the upbringing of the children. At the same time grew a whole generation of boys raised without male role models. If you have not had a father or had a father in theory but in practice not been there, it is hard to be a good dad. If you don't work with itself and decides to break the pattern. A poll made in Russian Karelia shows that around ninety percent of the respondents, the fathers believe that they have an important role in children's development, but also that they live healthier and be happier to spend time with their children. In recent years it has begun to pop up different pappaprojekt everywhere in Russia.

There are magazines and sites on the web that started to discuss the both parties - as papparollen.

In many cities there are now pappaskolor where both the prospective, as being dads can meet others in the same situation to discuss feelings and problems. In Sankt Peterburg, the social services can even begin to force irresponsible fathers to go in pappaskola to take better care of their children. In the town of Berezovsky outside of Ekaterinburg in the ural mountains gathered a group of men raise money for a sculpture depicting a little girl with outstretched arms. The sculpture which bore the title of ”Dad where are you?” would get the city fathers to think about if they can't spend time with their children a little more often. Recently, I met a young, newly appointed Russian father who told me that he no longer was so interested in a hunt, but thought it was at least as exciting to see his little daughter develop. Although she is so far most similar to that of a small kitten, she will become more and more human. I want to walk the entire way together with her. Hopefully, their interactions make them happy and maybe the daughter, when she gets big, choose a man for reasons other than that she feels sorry for him.




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